Growing up I always assumed that being a parent would be an easy thing to accomplish until my child/children reached puberty and that "rebellious" phase. I couldn't have been more wrong.
Riana is "spirited" at the very least and suffering from ADHD or something else at the most. We are committed to seeing her through all that troubles her and making her well - but it is an UPHILL battle. And there are times that this sweet little girl turns this house into one that sounds like a roller-coaster with her screaming and tantruming. I am learning how to deal with these tantrums and basically to ignore them until she behaves appropriately - but it isn't easy.
For the rest of the world she is a very sweet and well mannered child. We are complimented on her bevahior often. Which makes me feel good, but inwardly I still know how she behaves.
It seems to be about control with her - she wants to make the decisions about everything - and if she doesn't make the decision - well, it is tantrum city.
As I said we are working on it - and someday with all the nurturing, affection and love we are capable of she will work through these issues and the child the rest of the world sees - we will see at all times.....
Showing posts with label Riana. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Riana. Show all posts
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Monday, April 23, 2007
Bringing Sisters Together
We went this past weekend and brought Riana to meet up with her 2 sisters for the first time in many years. Ashley is in the front and is 15, Alyssa is in the back with Riana and she is 13. They all look so much alike, but by looking at Alyssa we can see what Riana will look like when she gets older - except the other 2 girls have wavy/curly hair and Riana's is pin straight.
It was an interesting visit once I got over my initial nerves. The girls both are lovely and seemed to be very happy to have Riana back in their lives and I am glad that we did it.
We are looking forward to continuing the relationship so the girls will have each other for as long as they want.
Saturday, March 31, 2007
Parent Teacher Conf
Well, the second round of parent teacher conferences went off without a hitch. We knew Riana was doing well academically, and still having some minor behavioral problems; this is exactly what we discussed with her teacher during the meeting.
I am wondering if some of the problems stem from where she lived before she was a part of our family and if the instability when she was younger plays a roll.
On the lighter side - she is going to be published in a district wide creative writing book in the city for a very short story she wrote for class. There will be an awards ceremony and she will receive a copy of the book as well.
Also, the teacher recommended an accelerated school for her next year. I have filled out the application and have to give a bit of it to her teacher to fill out and then she will be part of the lottery for that. It is a school focused on literature and I think it is something she would enjoy.
I am wondering if some of the problems stem from where she lived before she was a part of our family and if the instability when she was younger plays a roll.
On the lighter side - she is going to be published in a district wide creative writing book in the city for a very short story she wrote for class. There will be an awards ceremony and she will receive a copy of the book as well.
Also, the teacher recommended an accelerated school for her next year. I have filled out the application and have to give a bit of it to her teacher to fill out and then she will be part of the lottery for that. It is a school focused on literature and I think it is something she would enjoy.
Monday, March 26, 2007
Riana's Award Ceremony
Riana had her second award ceremony of the year today at school, and for the second time she received an academic award of scholarship - last time for reading, this time for language arts and math. SHe is one smart cookie - too smart sometimes I think
Friday, March 23, 2007
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
Sick Kid
Kept Riana home from school the last two days - she has had a fever, headache and I am terrified that she has the chicken pox - I know it is going around in her class. So far though, so spots anywhere......
Saturday, January 6, 2007
My Little Drama QUeen
I wrote an article awhile ago about my 5-1/2 year old daughter and what a drama queen she has become, but it truly bears repeating. Riana can cry at the drop of a feather - and with all the emotion of someone who has just lost their best friend. Just this morning she was sent info fits of near hysteria because I asked her to clean her room, not immaculate mind you, but just to put things where they belong. She has a book case, drawers and a rack that fit all of her toys and them some. Inevitably though something is out of place and I have to ask her to clean up. This leads to crying which typically leads to my yelling and getting stresses out. This morning I chose a different tac. I just told her to clean it - I always give her a set amount of time and then I go and clean it myself. That of course leads to more hysteria. Oh, well. I am giving her extra time today and just letting her get it done. It's Saturday and I don't feel like having to yell today.
In the mean time, my three year old, Patrick is upstairs in his room playing. By playing I mean her is dumping everything he owns onto the floor to make his room look like some sort of a minefield that you wouldn't want to walk into if it was dark. He has some toys that are small enough to cause tripping and pain that will continue for some time.
I think I have come to the conclusion that I was try to keep the rest of the house clean and just let them keep their rooms however they want. This is a good idea, but the idea of me cleaning the rest of the house gives me hives!! I hate housework and I wish there were little elves or something that could come in and get it done when I was sleeping.
In the mean time, my three year old, Patrick is upstairs in his room playing. By playing I mean her is dumping everything he owns onto the floor to make his room look like some sort of a minefield that you wouldn't want to walk into if it was dark. He has some toys that are small enough to cause tripping and pain that will continue for some time.
I think I have come to the conclusion that I was try to keep the rest of the house clean and just let them keep their rooms however they want. This is a good idea, but the idea of me cleaning the rest of the house gives me hives!! I hate housework and I wish there were little elves or something that could come in and get it done when I was sleeping.
My Little Drama QUeen
I wrote an article awhile ago about my 5-1/2 year old daughter and what a drama queen she has become, but it truly bears repeating. Riana can cry at the drop of a feather - and with all the emotion of someone who has just lost their best friend. Just this morning she was sent info fits of near hysteria because I asked her to clean her room, not immaculate mind you, but just to put things where they belong. She has a book case, drawers and a rack that fit all of her toys and them some. Inevitably though something is out of place and I have to ask her to clean up. This leads to crying which typically leads to my yelling and getting stresses out. This morning I chose a different tac. I just told her to clean it - I always give her a set amount of time and then I go and clean it myself. That of course leads to more hysteria. Oh, well. I am giving her extra time today and just letting her get it done. It's Saturday and I don't feel like having to yell today.
In the mean time, my three year old, Patrick is upstairs in his room playing. By playing I mean her is dumping everything he owns onto the floor to make his room look like some sort of a minefield that you wouldn't want to walk into if it was dark. He has some toys that are small enough to cause tripping and pain that will continue for some time.
I think I have come to the conclusion that I was try to keep the rest of the house clean and just let them keep their rooms however they want. This is a good idea, but the idea of me cleaning the rest of the house gives me hives!! I hate housework and I wish there were little elves or something that could come in and get it done when I was sleeping.
In the mean time, my three year old, Patrick is upstairs in his room playing. By playing I mean her is dumping everything he owns onto the floor to make his room look like some sort of a minefield that you wouldn't want to walk into if it was dark. He has some toys that are small enough to cause tripping and pain that will continue for some time.
I think I have come to the conclusion that I was try to keep the rest of the house clean and just let them keep their rooms however they want. This is a good idea, but the idea of me cleaning the rest of the house gives me hives!! I hate housework and I wish there were little elves or something that could come in and get it done when I was sleeping.
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